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TrentonUK's avatar

Another well considered and robust article. Thankyou. Stay strong.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

Thank you 🙏

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Wilhelm Alexander Wolfman's avatar

Well written...I find the absence of accountability sickening. The thousands of affirming paper cuts before the surgeon wields his affirming knife...via the full spectrum propoganda machine. There is very little resistance to this or personal responsibility. The fraud requires mass participation/complicity... Mostly via omission.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

The paper cut analogy is appropriate indeed. All so horrifically tragic and unnecessary - and no accountability 😞 maybe it has always been so?

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Charlotte's avatar

I hadn’t considered Piaget in all of this insanity, and it’s absolutely spot on. So, it really does beg the question, who drives this. I have long believed narcissistic parenting to be involved,and Munchausen’s is a brilliant formulation, inherently narcissistic as it is.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

Yes the Munchausen aspect only dawned on me fairly recently. I don’t think that is such a thing in teen trans identity (developmentally even). But for small kids it is definitely a possibility their parents. Horrific really. Slowly killing their own children for their own gratification

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Charlotte's avatar

It fits so well. I don’t think it ever occurred to me because Munchausen by proxy is rare. But these ‘disorders’ are proliferating and it’s an example of ‘the devouring mother’, psychoanalytically speaking. Fascinating, dangerous and tragic.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

I suppose it’s an extension of ‘child as commodity’ that we see in the ‘rights’ push in things like surrogacy as well? We see the most extreme example in those two men with the twins. The tik tok guys (one with blond braids make up to the max) . Parenting is a gift. Good parenting is based on self sacrifice.

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Charlotte's avatar

I saw a video of those ‘guys’ a few weeks back. Honestly it was grotesque. It all seems to be part of the movement away from traditional values towards the postmodern realm where anything goes and there is no objective truth. The long march of cultural Marxism through the institutions! Terrifying!

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

Yes it's utterly tragic for those babies. Very Brave New World stuff.

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Daniel Saunders's avatar

I worry about protecting my future children from this craziness. My wife and I don't have a TV, or rather, we have a TV set without an aerial, so we can watch DVDs, but not TV. This was largely to legally avoid having to pay the TV licence, mostly in protest against the BBC's antisemitic news coverage, but I am pleased we have control over what we can see. I feel like it's becoming impossible to let children come into contact with any contemporary TV, film, books, websites... there's so much sexualisation, gender ideology and politicisation (e.g. Ibram Kendi's inadvertently hilarious, but deeply troubling "Anti-Racist Baby" and all the Palestine stuff).

Growing up Jewish, but not ultra-Orthodox, the ultra-Orthodox separation from the mainstream world seemed extreme, but I think my wife and I are headed that way to protect our children.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

It’s hard. I managed to keep my son from most things by not having a tv till last year (!) He was eleven. Otherwise we just watched things I could curate on the tablet or computer. And I got a projector for watching films. It worked for us for a while. Since he is now pre-teen the frame needs to change again- but at least we can talk about things. I do worry though. Phones (which he doesn’t have yet) are a whole other minefield. I hope the growing awareness will create new schools, or at least a renewed commitment to childhood in the current ones.

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Daniel Saunders's avatar

Oh, my wife and I have already agreed that our kids won't have a smart phone until secondary school at least. If we can get away with giving them a non-smart phone (still available if you know where to look) we will. We're already trying to wean ourselves off our own phones to set a good example. Again, this is something easier in the Orthodox Jewish world, where worries about internet phones are much stronger than in the mainstream world.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

It's good if you have a united front. I also think having a friend group you connect to that are on the same page really helps. Same for your (future) child's friends. I would imagine a lot will change in the next few years. More parents are waking to the harms of smart phones.

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Valerie Nelson's avatar

I admire you for leading by example with your smart phone use. It’s so much easier as a grandparent but I try very hard not to look at my phone when we’re looking after our grandchildren. So much better for our health too.

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Daniel Howard James's avatar

Remember folx, masculinity is toxic unless caused by elective testosterone use, which is a literal cytotoxin.

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Kate E. Deeming's avatar

Of course!! How silly of me not to mention 🫣🙈🤡 ‘trans men’ are the true men because they have to work so much harder to achieve the true male characteristics!

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